Monday, March 20, 2017
L A T E L Y
It goes back to the saying, "The enemy of the best, is the good." For a long time I've justified my FB time because I sought out "good things." Like watching positive uplifting videos, informative articles and FB was becoming my primary news source for trending topics and political issues that I desperately want to stay on top of. But the fact is, even if I only seek out the good, positive and informative there is still too much of it to be consumed by one person. It was just too much.
I've often thought of taking a break or cutting back, but never made an actual commitment. I thought it was something I could do gradually or if I could just "watched it" a little, somehow my quick 10 minute peek on FB wouldn't turn into an entire hour down the drain. At this point I've only committed to a week, but I know I really need to set some hard and fast rules about my time online and how I use it, before jumping back in the game. Additionally, I made a short list of things to do when I'm feeling idle/not motivated and have that desire to just chill with my computer. A work in progress but it already feels so good. Which brings me to my next tidbit...
Better Than Before By Gretchen Ruben
I've been listening to this book on audiobook (still not quite finished) and it played a HUGE role in finally getting me to commit to a FB break. The book is all about habits. How we create them, how we cultivate them and why. What I really love about this particular book is that Gretchen Ruben (author of The Happiness Project) starts with an analysis of what motivates you. There are lots of books about habits (7 Habits of Highly Effective People) but what I love about her approach is that she acknowledges that not everyone is motivated in the same way, and rather than telling you what habits you should be forming, she helps you recognize how to use your natural tendencies to form habits that will work for you. I feel like that sounds really boring, but it's actually quite compelling stuff. (And if you still don't believe me I actually got the book recommendation from listening to Alison of the Alison Show's podcast and you know she's not boring.)
The opening chapters have helped me think not only think about my habits and what drives me, but they've also been extremely eye opening as to what drives my husband--a bit of a eureka moment actually. You know, maybe he's not actually doing some of these things just to drive me crazy. Maybe he just ticks a little differently than I do. I really want him to read this book and I highly recommend it to anyone else as well.
PSP got her ears pierced!
It was a great experience! The staff did a great job and PSP really loves having her ears pierced. If you live in Cincinnati I would definitely recommend Skincraft. Some big differences from my childhood mall experience:
--He really took his time. He marked and remarked the ear, compared the two sides and asked for both me and PSP's approval before moving forward. I don't remember them being quite so careful when I was young, but maybe most places are.
--They don't use an earring gun! I didn't know this. As our piercing guy was explaining the piercing guns use the blunt end of the earring to punch through your ear, so it's actually more painful. Here, they use a needle, and stick it through really fast. As you can see below they clamp around the ear hole first, so they definitely have a steady grip on it and then stick the needle right through. For some reason I was a little nervous at first but she barely flinched and she said it barely hurt all. Less than a shot! Also, there has been very little redness or swelling.
--You don't have to twist these earrings! Another shocker for me. When I was a kid we were instructed to twist our earrings often so that the skin wouldn't heal and attach itself to the earring. At a tattoo/piercing parlour they use titanium jewelry that is made for the body (the same stuff used for screws and plates that have to go in the body) and because it's hypoallergenic and non-stick they recommend actually that you don't twist the earrings, because they won't attach, but you could let bacteria in. You don't really even touch them except to use a little mild soap and water in the shower to wash them up then rinse them off. Another thing about these earrings, is that the back is flat--it's hard to explain but you don't have a little stick thinking poking you behind your ear. I think it's definitely a more comfy option for a first time earring wearer.
--It was a little more expensive than I remember, but that was due to the titanium earring selection (I called Claire's--it's free with the cost of the earrings, so you can go really cheap or more high end) and also someone who has more experience and expertise. In the end I thought it was really worth it.
Lastly, we've got a big decision looming over our family right now and wow, and I feel really split. This is one of those decisions that I feel like I will regret it if we do, and I'll regret it if we don't. We've made a pro/con list, talked it out as a family, done a lot of research, prayed and still don't feel 100%. I asked this question last week on IG, and we had some really good discussion, but how do you make big life decisions? A born and raised Mormon I've always been taught to pray, fast and seek the Lord's help, in addition to studying it out in your mind and in general using your brain. I have definitely felt divine intervention in the course of my life plenty of times, but not always (or even often?) when it seems I'm prayerfully asking for help in a big decision. And while I don't always think you need it and there are plenty of ways to interpret the "no answer" answer, I know that I'm someone who has a hard time looking back and asking "what if?" Which may just be my personality. Anyway, I'd love to hear from you--religious or not--how do you make life's big decisions? A move, another baby, marriage, career, etc? Do you question past decisions or do you always just keep on trucking? Any former questioners who have discovered the magical secret of not looking back?
I'd love to hear any and all thoughts about anything discussed above. Anyone else on a FB/social media break? Anyone else forgo the mall ear piercing route and try something a little different? Did you like it better or worse? Lastly, I'd LOVE to hear how you and your family make big, life-altering decisions!