Wednesday, April 01, 2015
Sorry for the crickets around here, but Lamp and I are getting ready to head out on a little mommy/daughter trip to Texas and we've been battling various sickness around our household. Hopefully we're over the worst of it! As far as Texas goes we're heading back to see her orthopedic docs in Dallas and then we're headed down to San Antonio for a few days to see our friends and visit our old stomping grounds. I'm so excited. It's no secret that I miss Texas something fierce these days and I'm really looking forward to a trip with just Lamp and I--something I'd like to do with my other kids at some point too. That being said last month on our trip to Florida was the first time we've flown on a plane with Lamp and her power chair and we're going to do it again today--it was an interesting experience, something I might write about in the future.
But today I've been wanting to throw another question out there, something that has been on my mind a lot lately--the talk. You know... the sex talk. A couple of years ago I had heard from various sources that a good time to have the talk with children was when they're 8 years old. The idea being that they're old enough to understand, yet young enough that they won't be completely mortified to be discussing this with their parents (gah!) of all people. Additionally, I think the idea is also that as parents you want to get to them before other sources do--kids at school, TV/Movies, etc--and help them understand the proper role sex plays in our lives. This book is one that a lot of people have pointed to as a good guide to having this discussion with your kids. (I've purchased it, but have yet to read it. Also, I believe the authors are LDS FYI.) They authors advocate taking your child out for a special night with just him/her and both parents. They talk say you should really talk it up like "hey, we're going have a great evening and we're gonna tell you about something really cool! This is going to be so awesome!" Or something along those lines.
So a couple of years ago when I first heard this idea I was totally on board and thought this was a great idea. Fast forward to the present and I've got cold feet. Do we really want to have the talk now? Isn't she too young? How much do you tell/don't tell?
So internets what say you? Is there a fool-proof way of having a great sex talk with your kids? Have you done this in a formal manner or was it off the cuff? If you are a 2 parent home, were both of you there or just one? What about when you were a kid--did your parents have the talk with you and did it go well? Does that affect what you want to do with your kids now? Personally I didn't like having 'the talk' with my mom... I was 12, it was embarrassing and in general I just didn't like it. Which is one reason I think I'm so hesitant now. I want this to be a good experience, but at the same time I can't control how my children will react and perhaps like many things in life there will never be a perfect time. I'd love to hear your thoughts, experiences and suggestions!