Monday, April 28, 2014

Four Months


I posted this picture on instagram and my personal FB last week and many people commented on how happy I look.  
Which only made me more happy... because I am.  Happy, that is.   


This little angel is four months old.  Four months. 
She is a dream.  My sweet baby Zuzu (her new internet name I think).

Adding a new human to your family always takes a little adjustment, but I love when I get to that place where I think/say, How did we ever get along without you?  You know that feeling that they have always been a part of your family but you just didn't know it?  I love that feeling.

Zuzu wakes up cooing and smiling.  She goes to sleep easily and typically takes long leisurely naps.  She smiles often, but particularly when she sees her mama.  The past couple of days she has added giggling to her repertoire.  She is a beauty with big, dark eyes framed by delicate baby lashes on the outside corners.  Not to mention her dimples and a cleft chin to die for.  I actually lose track of time when we're cuddling and talking.  It's like someone bottled up unicorns, rainbows, cotton candy, laugher, daisies, beach sunsets, and kittens, labeled it "Pure Joy" and then dipped my baby in it on her way down from heaven.  Now that I think about it, that's obviously what happened.                                

You hear all the time, how going from 2 to 3 kids is a game changer--how hard it is, from man-to-man to zone defense, etc, etc.  But honestly this has been our easiest transition yet.  You are allowed to resent me for that statement, but it's true.  I'm sure a large part of it has to do with the postpartum medication.  But I also believe a large part of it has to do with the little angle babe Zuzu is.  She sleeps well, she eats well and when she's awake she's happy, smiley and sweet.

How did I get my baby to do all these things you might ask?  I'm about to reveal my big, parenting secret.  Ready?

Nothing.  I didn't do a damn thing.  (Sorry Grams...)

I say that not to brag, but hopefully to bring a little comfort.  If you're currently struggling with a fussy baby who cries too much and sleeps too little, or a baby who doesn't eat well (or wants to eat all the time!), who refuses to nap, is clingy, whiney or just plain grumpy know this: You're doing the best you can.  Sure there are some tricks and tips that might help (and surely you've Googled and Googled until your Googler is sore) but for the most part it will just take some time.  See, I spent so many hours with my first baby trying to figure out what I was doing wrong.  I thought if I could just crack the code surely she would sleep longer, eat better and be less fussy.  What I know now is that PSP was just a tough baby.  That's it.  The good news is, over time things got better and she is a delightful little girl.  So yes, I have a dreamy dreamboat of a baby now, but I've had that difficult, fussy, turn-my-life-upsidedown baby and I survived.  So will you.  It's also entirely possible that the only person to benefit from this little pep-talk is 7-years-ago-Miggy.  

There is no bigger craps shoot in life than having kids.  Adoption aside, you get absolutely no say in who this little person is who is joining your family.  When you think about it, that's amazing!  The familiar saying we often tell our children comes to mind, You get what you get and you don't throw a fit.  For me that's especially true of babies.

This time, I hit the baby jackpot.

Happy Four Months little one.  


11 comments:

  1. She's so pretty! I had a case of delayed baby jackpot...the first few months were tough, but now she's an absolute dream. And now those first few months are but a distant, blurry memory, and I find myself wanting another one!

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    1. Haha...delayed baby jackpot--I'll take it! So glad everything smoothed out for you.

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  2. Anonymous10:47 AM

    She is adorable..n looks exactly like "pure Joy"..

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  3. Can we also call her dreamboat?

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  4. I'm keeping this post in my pocket. You know, just in case.

    All of you are adorable.

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    1. May,

      It's here just in case... no matter what, those first few weeks and maybe months are just overwhelming anyway. Even with jackpot baby here, I was an emotional wreck by day 3. Perspective baby...it WILL get easier/better. (And you all are adorabler).

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  5. OMG! You said Baby Jackpot... that's what my husband and I call our little Basher Boo (Sebastian), who just turned four months on the 23rd. Our first ton was affectionately called "the screamer", so this happy go lucky, joyful, little bundle of joy is soooo different than my first experience... eats well, sleeps well, barely cries. And yes, my first so is joyful and happy now too, it just took several months to work it all out. But anyway, she is beautiful, as are you! So glad she is fitting right in with your little family!

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    1. Emily--We have baby twiners...must be something lucky about the 23rd. So great you got a jackpot baby too...and to honest in hindsight I'm glad my hard baby was my first. Especially when I could dedicate the time to 'just' her. And of course empathy, experience and all that as well.

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  6. I love this thought - 'you know that feeling that they have always been a part of your family but you just didn't know it?'. Just beautiful. I'm not quite ready to have kids yet but I found this post so heartwarming - thank you. Happy four months baby Zuzu!

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