Wednesday, January 08, 2014

Check, Check...1, 2..1, 2..


Is this thing on?

I'm s l o w l y starting to emerge from a baby coma.

The good news:  So far (knock on wood) she's a delightful little baby.  She still sleeps a lot (knock on wood) and in general has an easy going disposition.  (Ahem...knock on wood).  Her sisters love and adore her.  Natch.  B still has a couple weeks off and is helping a lot, especially with night time feedings.  Ever since my postpartum post I've had a lot of people ask, "Sooo, how are you doing?"  And the answer is pretty good actually.  I decided to start medication right away and while it hasn't been long enough to fully kick in, I'm glad I made the decision to be pro-active about my PPD this time around instead of waiting for the other shoe to drop.  That being said, I'm still being mindful about my overall well being and wouldn't exactly say I'm-out-of-the-woods.  I've had the help of some good friends as well... again so glad I was pro-active and emailed friends ahead of time.

Also, she's beautiful.  And I really love her.  


The so-so news:  While I'm feeling pretty well overall I'm having a really hard time sleeping.  Not because of the baby, but in general I'm having a hard time falling and staying asleep--even when the wee babe is fast asleep herself.  My husband--the rockstar, my rock--is really helping out in this department and I'm so, so grateful for him.  He is really amazing you know.  Any sleep tips you'd like to share?  Meditation, vitamins, acupuncture....I'm all ears.

Speaking of ears, it has now come to my attention that my 3 year old has the loudest voice in the world.  Truly, her regular speaking voice is a couple notches up from the norm.  We've actually known this a while and have a secret code word for her when she's talking too loud (tooth fairy tip-toes!  That's our code word...) and have even had her hearing checked (s' all good).  We have been trying for months to turn the volume down with little success.  Now that the baby is here though it has become a part time job/hobby of mine.  I know she's a newborn and not too bothered with sounds, but with babies I just become super-noise sensitive.  Can't help it.  Also, it's just giving me a headache.


But enough about me...how are you guys doing?  You know what I just decided I need?  A good laugh.  If there's anything funny (not offensively so) that you can link to will you post it below? If I can laugh a little or a lot everyday I think that will go a long way.

I know...not even a picture today.  Such is life...

29 comments:

  1. as far as sleep goes - use lavender essential oil if you haven't already. you can rub a drop or two on your feet before bed, or you can get an oil diffuser. that way it would help out everyone! hope that helps! glad to hear everything else is going well. : )

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  2. I think this is hilarous:

    https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10151095136123386&set=a.10150103050563386.275466.190558433385&type=1&theater

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  3. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/raquel-dapice/10-month-olds-letter-to-santa_b_4427512.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uFQfylQ2Jgg&feature=share

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  4. There is this girl I follow on Instagram that I really like (thealisonshow) and she just hosted an IG dance off. Search the #alisondanceoff (only one l) it's hilarious because it's just a bunch of moms dancing like crazy people. I'm glad you and baby are doing well!

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  5. My bad #alisonsdanceoff

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  6. Hi Miggy, I am 8.5 months pregnant and very uncomfortable, so I don't find much funny these days.So I'm no help there. BUT I was having trouble sleeping in about the sixth month and my doctor advised Benadryl (the one for allergies) to help me sleep. She says it is very gentle and is fine for pregnant and nursing mothers. And it worked beautifully. After a few nights of taking it, I started feeling sleepy on my own around 9 p.m. and could sleep until morning without the Benadryl. Maybe ask your doctor about it if you are nervous about trying it.

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  7. Anonymous4:07 PM

    I was going to suggest Benadryl as well! I really needed it after my third - I could fall asleep fine, but would wake up at 4 am and not be able to get back to sleep - it really helped me.

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  8. Anonymous5:26 PM

    Hyland's Calms Forte, is homeopathic, and helpful. My daughter has always been very loud, we found the perfect book for her, " Too Loud Lily", by Sophie Laguna. It's a cute story where she's always getting in trouble for being too loud, but then gets a new teacher that appreciates her loudness. It helped us to address it in a positive way. We still remind her to turn down the volume by saying "Too Loud Lili" and she's 12! ;o)

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  9. Glad things are going well besides the sleeping. I've used melatonin in the past when I've had trouble falling asleep. Not recommended for long term usage but for a few months it is fine. Also, Tylenol PM is my drug of choice for those random nights that I'm tossing and turning or feeling crappy or want to guarantee a good nights sleep. Anything with diphenhydramine (that's what's in Benadryl too) should work and is fine for nursing moms.
    Something funny......Have you ever heard of Kid History or Kid Snippets? Sooooooo funny! My kids and I are addicted to watching them. They come out with a new one every Monday. Here's a link to just one of them that is funny and addresses the problem of talking too loudly :) There's a ton of them on Youtube.
    http://youtu.be/0Hk28DFxLbY

    Oh and this is my all time favorite one.
    http://youtu.be/fh0NLQJfAYU

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  10. check out mandatory.com- then click "awesome"- they have daily funny pics soooo funny!!

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  11. Melatonin is always helpful for me. Glad all things are going well. The PPD post was beyond words. Being a NICU nurse, I have shared the post with some fellow work friends and some even new nicu moms. Strong powerful words from one incredible woman. Glad your hubby still has some time at home. Take it easy. Relax. and a delayed congratulations!

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  12. I have a daughter that has no volume control. She is so loud all the time. She is 8 now and we still have to remind her when we are in the car that it is an enclosed space and she needs to bring it down or anywhere else for that matter. Good luck! Maybe her noise will help the baby be less sensitive to every noise :)

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  13. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9PVhIMr4ScI
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I03UmJbK0lA
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m1yir-p68xM

    You asked! We are Canadian so we don't get these commercials up here. My boy's favorite is the Joe Boxer one. Best part is is I was going to get into the car one day and he was standing there wiggling back and forth and I asked him what was up. He said "Oh you know, just ringing the bells." I LOVE my 1 year old boy! He is hilarious!

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  14. About Sleep! I'm your woman! For you I'd say it will probably calm a bit when your medication kicks in. But in the meantime...maybe see a naturopath? They're great about finding herbs and whatnot that are helpful and also safe for breastfeeding (if you're nursing).
    In general, the largest thing that has helped is the hardest: letting go of the idea of sleeping. Just let it go completely. It's ok if you don't sleep while she sleeps. You will survive. You WILL sleep eventually. "But what if I don't?!?!" You WILL. "But what if I DON'T?!??!" You WILL. Meanwhile, you might as well entertain yourself with a book or some music. No screens...the blue glare is anti-sleep. Maybe you'll fall asleep with your face in the book. It happens.
    I also find it helpful to turn the lights down little by little, over the course of the evening. Sometimes I'll read by headlamp turned on low, rather than ambient light (helpful for bed partners, too). And put a night light or some twinkly lights in your bathroom, so you don't have to turn on the "big" light when you get up to pee, or go in to pee one last time.
    Get gentle exercise each day--just a nice walk. It will help you heal your body, and is regulatory to your sensory system and mind, with the "pounding" of your feet into the ground.
    Be warm enough to sleep but not too warm. The baby will be warm enough--she has lots of cozy clothes. Also engage the principle of "neutral warmth" i.e. swaddle yourself. If you cuddle with your husband, that sensation of being wrapped up works. Otherwise a smallish blanket just over your trunk, or even just wrapped around your torso snugly, can work. It's another sensory regulation trick. And because it's a small blanket, you can get out of it easily to nurse.
    I like "calming" or "stress relieving" teas, but I'm not sure what's safe for nursing--chamomile isn't, I don't think, but you should get a more informed opinion on that one!
    Massages produce endorphins that last for hours, which can help sleep.
    And lastly, I have loved meditation since I started it a few months ago. LOVED. I noticed a change in the quality of my sleep right away. I have the biggest problem in falling asleep--I can get up and go right back down again, but it's the initial falling asleep that produces anxiety. Clearly, anxiety is my main thing, but meditation has been proven to work well, even better, for depression too. I read the book "Mindfulness" by Mark Williams, which comes with an eight-week guided meditation series. Fantastic. There are free guided meditations everywhere online, but that can be overwhelming, which is why I mentioned that book specifically. It has a website with the meditation tracks, too, which can be loaded into iTunes. There are a couple episodes of OnBeing that are meditation specific--if you're interested, email me, and I'll be happy to pass on links. I found it helpful just knowing the resource was out there and had worked really well for others, so even though the radio programs weren't meditations per se, they were calming. And just because, this is my favorite meditation I've found: http://www.onbeing.org/program/what-we-nurture/feature/lovingkindness-metta-meditation/337
    All the best to you and your beautiful family!

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  15. Oh! And fun things:

    Darlingest, most talented ever (both of them): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bpu0TIXzI1w
    Cats won't let dogs walk by: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7znI_Kpzbs

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  16. Rod Stryker meditation CDs... Have chronic illness which forces me to ingest steroids at times. Steroids keep me up and make me anxious... I love his CDs, they help, they really do! Congrats on your doll baby!

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  17. This is in a different language, but the video really needs no translation. Makes me laugh every time!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TXPQY_VRP6M

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  18. Here are my two favorite jokes for you, in no particular order :)

    1. I was walking on the beach the other day and I was shocked to hear a man in the water yelling, "HELP, SHARK!!!!"

    It really upset me because I knew the shark wouldn't help him.

    2. Baby brother snake slithered up to big brother snake and asked with his little voice trembling and sad snake tears forming in his little eyes, "Big brother snake *sniff*...are we the poisonous kinds of snakes? *sniff*"

    Big brother snake turned to baby brother snake and replied, "I dunno...why?"

    Baby brother snake responded tearily, " 'Cause I just bit my tongue..."

    Thank you, thank you...I'll be here all week ;)

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  19. Yay! I'm so glad things are going well. I'm dying to know what you named baby girl. Hee hee. I had to laugh about the loud voice of your teeny three year old! I remember having a friend do the same thing with her three year old and get her hearing checked! The doc said it's just a thing a lot of kids go through! Charlie can whisper everywhere but sacrament meeting at church. It's a phenomenon! Good luck with everything. I'm rooting for you!

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  20. No...I really will be here all week...my kids are sick again...like, seriously...

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  21. Try the Pzizz app (I think its iphone/droid friendly). It's a little weird, but when my husband and I use it for a few nights in a row, it REALLY works. As an example, I can never sleep on planes. We had a red eye flight to NYC and was trying, but tossing and turning horribly. I put my headphones in, turned on pzizz and was asleep in minutes.

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  22. I have anxiety issues and thyroid probs that make it extremely difficult for me to sleep. My doc recommended melatonin (even when I was BFing, but ask your doc to be sure). It's helped a lot. There's also benadryl (which *may* affect milk supply--so again ask your doc). And lastly, white noise. With my 3rd (and latest) babe I said, "screw trying to hear for them. I NEED my big ole fan. When he's really awake I will hear him, but I don't need to hear every fart, sigh, etc each night." I also suffer from severe PPD--way to go for you to be proactive with the meds. I def noticed a difference this time around because I did the same thing (meds right away with #3).

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  23. If you haven't yet checked out Elizabeth's first YouTube link, GO DO IT. RIGHT NOW!!! It is such a cute and awesome video. I was actually really bummed when I realized someone had already sent that to you. It was the first thing I thought of when you asked for submissions.

    But don't worry. I have more up my sleeve. You'll be hearing from me next week. We've got to string this stuff out... :)

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  24. A little funny...I teach kindergarten. Around the second day or so, I finally had them all busy and quiet at their seats while I snuck across the room to put some notes in their mailboxes. No sooner had a started and a little girl came running to me to tell me "Chad said the F word". I wasn't alarmed, the F word in Kindergarten is fart and the S word is always stupid or shut up. Before I could even respond, Chad stood up and yelled across the room, "UH UH, *UCK does not start with F!". Yes it does. Sit down. Note to self, Chad does not know the F sound.

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  25. Ellie7:02 PM

    Congratulations on your beautiful and precious baby! How I wish my third daughter was not so loud at four. And a link to Julia's latest post on embarrassing moments: julia.typepad.com/julia/

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  26. Hope you're still checking for funnies, because this is a good one. Audio of a dad interviewing his two young daughters about an unfortunate haircut the older sister gave to the younger one. (You might want to listen to this without Lamp and PSP in the room first. Don't want to give them any ideas!)

    http://www.prx.org/pieces/73865-two-little-girls-explain-the-worst-haircut-ever

    Best part - - - the story is being made into a book! Hope it turns into college funds for these girls. :)
    http://www.harpercollinschildrens.com/books/Worst-Haircut-Ever

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  27. Anonymous1:20 PM

    Dear Elizabeth (from above comment)
    I like your comments on sleep. I also have issues with it. But when you say "give up on sleep" and then you just don't sleep and then you're exhausted. How can you then not worry about it next night, etc..

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  28. Hi Anon,
    The very first thing you should do is see your health care provider--PCP, naturopath, whatever. NOT chiropractor; they don't have the training. If your HCP is unhelpful, find another one. If that is overwhelming, ask Facebook, and people will tell you who to go to. I don't feel like I can guide you through step by step because I don't know your specific issues--mine is anxiety, and after X pattern, and the sum total of my knowledge is specialized to me--I'm not a professional in this area. My dad's is anxiety too, but after Y pattern. My maternal grandma's was anxiety too, but after Z pattern. You see what I mean? You will do best with help that is specialized to you. :)
    I didn't say give up on sleep. You will sleep, promise. There are infinity drugs to help with that, if it comes to that (and it might, temporarily or semi-permanently. And that's a-ok).
    What I did say was let go of the idea of sleeping. It is unhelpful for anyone to lie in bed and dwell on how they are not sleeping, and how that will wreck their day, and possibly their life, and in fact this may be a sign of the End of Times. Like I said, you might as well distract yourself--read, write (no screen; longhand), listen to music, count sheep, do a breathing program, meditate, etc. And know that you will survive, regardless of the number of hours of sleep you get. There are professionals to help you handle this.

    You will be tired. You will want to worry about the next night. That's how anxiety works. It's a vicious cycle--a terribly vicious cycle that sucks your mind in. It will be like this for awhile--until it isn't. You WILL sleep. Even on nights you think you don't, I bet you did--maybe not very much, but you did. You're going to be tired for awhile. That's how it will be. It won't be like that forever. That was/is my biggest fear--that it will always be like the worst of times. It never has been. I will also say that I've been working on this for 11 years in April--oy, that was sobering. There was a stretch of years in the middle that were nearly symptom-free, and then things flared up again. Now, however, I feel better than ever. I have strategies in place, and I know what I will do next if this doesn't work. I also know I still take a medication as a baseline, that I would like to not take anymore, but haven't been able to get away from due to "rebound" panic effects when I try to get off it. So, we shall see. That will be rough, when I do it. It won't be forever.

    You might not be able to get out of the cycle by yourself--but there ARE people who can help you get out. That's why I recommended seeing your HCP right away--see above for that stepwise recommendation. :) You can do it. It will be hard. You can do it.

    The book I mentioned in the original commend, "Mindfulness" by Mark Williams, had a really concise description of anxiety and how it works in your brain, which is honestly what sold me on the book. I can't recommend this book enough. My mom the social worker is a big proponent of the "Anxiety of and Phobia Workbook", which I own but is in my emergency stash of Things I Will Do Next Time. The list of things I have tried is loooooong, and includes almost everything anyone might mention. The most compelling to me is what helps me understand the brain process. It might not be the most compelling to others. You'll find what is.

    Off you pop to talk to your HCP. :) Counseling is often helpful, too. You might have to try multiple counselors (I've tried 3 or 4 over the years, none of which was the magic bullet, and I'd try more).

    So much love...this is a hard road to walk.

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  29. Miggy, I have another funny for you. My friend just adopted a dog over the weekend and I was reminded of this gem...

    ENTRIES IN A DOG'S JOURNAL:
    8:00 am - OH BOY! DOG FOOD! MY FAVORITE!
    9:30 am - OH BOY! A CAR RIDE! MY FAVORITE!
    9:40 am - OH BOY! A WALK! MY FAVORITE!
    10:30 am - OH BOY! A CAR RIDE! MY FAVORITE!
    11:30 am - OH BOY! DOG FOOD! MY FAVORITE!
    12:00 noon - OH BOY! THE KIDS! MY FAVORITE!
    1:00 PM - OH BOY! THE YARD! MY FAVORITE!
    1:30 PM - ooooooo. bath. bummer.
    4:00 PM - OH BOY! THE KIDS! MY FAVORITE!
    5:00 PM - OH BOY! DOG FOOD! MY FAVORITE!
    5:30 PM - OH BOY! MOM! MY FAVORITE!



    ENTRIES IN A CAT'S JOURNAL:
    DAY 752 - My captors continue to taunt me with bizarre little dangling objects. They dine lavishly on fresh meat, while I am forced to eat dry cereal. The only thing that keeps me going is the hope of escape, and the mild satisfaction I get from ruining the occasional piece of furniture. Tomorrow I may eat another house plant.

    DAY 761 - Today my attempt to kill my captors by weaving around their feet while they were walking almost succeeded, must try this at the top of the stairs. In an attempt to disgust and repulse these vile oppressors, I once again induced myself to vomit on their favorite chair...must try this on their bed.

    DAY 765 - Decapitated a mouse and brought them the headless body, in attempt to make them aware of what I am capable of, and to try to strike fear into their hearts. They only cooed and condescended about what a good little cat I was...Hmmm. Not working according to plan.

    DAY 768 - I am finally aware of how sadistic they are. For no good reason I was chosen for the water torture. This time, however, it included a burning foamy chemical called "shampoo." What sick minds could invent such a liquid? My only consolation is the piece of thumb still stuck between my teeth.

    DAY 771 - There was some sort of gathering of their accomplices. I was placed in solitary throughout the event. However, I could hear the noise. More importantly I overheard that my confinement was due to MY power of "allergies." Must learn what this is and how to use it to my advantage.

    DAY 774 - I am convinced the other captives are flunkies and maybe snitches. The dog is routinely released and seems more than happy to return. He is obviously a half-wit. The bird, on the other hand, has got to be an informant, and speaks with them regularly. I am certain he reports my every move. Due to his current placement in the metal room his safety is assured. But I can wait; it is only a matter of time......

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