Wednesday, July 17, 2013

AOL




So it was kinda exciting when 2 Saturday's ago I received a couple of messages about my article being on the front page of AOL.com!  (I can't link directly to the AOL page).  I didn't even know that could happen and have no idea how the article got picked up, but of course I was pretty excited about the whole thing.  There was some interesting dialogue in the comments section.  Of course there were some flat out rude and ignorant comments--which is to be expected and which luckily looks as if they were deleted by a moderator.  But many comments were from fellow special needs families talking about the blessings their children have brought in to their lives and how grateful they are for these wonderful children.  Other comments came from mothers who have recently been in the 'receiving bad news' situation and were grateful to know they weren't alone.  However the comments that seemed to stir the most dialogue centered around families with children of special needs who actually feel quite different than we do, and than the families I've interviewed on my spotlight.  Some of these moms admit that they wish they had taken another route (abortion, adoption) with their special needs children because of the lack of support--emotionally, financially and otherwise--they've had over the years.  While I'm never in support of abortion, my heart really went out to these women who haven't had the same support that many of us have and who have felt more burdened than peace and love.  Of course I don't think this is specific to families of children with special needs, this could happen to any mother, father or family--life can be tough and overwhelming in many different unforeseen circumstances.  I found the timing to be interesting because I had talked to B just days before about the fact that our experience isn't everyone's experience in the special needs world and while I want to spread a message of hope and love, I don't want to ignore the hard truths that many other families face.  If you get a chance to click over and read through some of the comments, I'd love to hear your (kind and respectful) thoughts!
       

9 comments:

  1. Anonymous3:03 PM

    couldnt find the article...searched on google.

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    1. Click the link on "my article."

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  2. Anonymous6:01 PM

    Hello Miggy!
    I´ve been reading and enjoying your blog for a good while now. I like to read about your girls and your life in the USA and Always find the Special Needs Spotlight really interesting. I´m a teacher and it´s good to be reminded now and then about how we all are different and have our own needs, regardless if we are "normal" or not.

    Below is a link from Swedish television SVT (I´m Swedish). It´s a documentary about a 39 yr old man who was born without arms and legs. He lives a very good and interesting life and it is about possibilities, not restrictions.
    I suppose you won´t be able to understand anything they say : ), which is a pity, but the pictures tell a great story none the less.

    It will be available until august 13th.

    http://www.svtplay.se/video/1341398/armlos-benlos-makalos

    Greetings from Märta in sweden

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    1. Thanks for the link Marta! I'll check it out even if I can't understand a word. I love to see people out there defying the odds and changing perceptions. Thanks!

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  3. Anonymous6:05 PM

    I forgot to say that the title of the film:
    "armlos-benlos-makalos" means "armless-legless-fabolous".
    Märta

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  4. I just read the comments. Some of them were revolting, most were interesting.

    Thank God your daughter was born into such a loving family.

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    1. FF--Right? If I didn't know and see it with my own eyes that most people are good, kind and loving I might get a little freaked out that there are still people out there with such backwards ways of thinking. Hooray for goodness.

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  5. Anonymous12:17 PM

    Read the comments too. Interesting, and sad how support and outlook changes everything. While I have never walked in your footsteps, or anyone with a special needs child, I have trouble believing that we all deserve an easy life - so what if it's hard. There is much joy and reward to be found in a hard life as well. Yeah I can hear everyone saying "how would you know" which is true, but I firmly believe God gives us what we can handle, and what we need tp grow on our journey. Every child, every person regardless of abilities has much to offer. I am extremely sad that abortion is seen as acceptable and often encouraged in many situations. It makes my heart so sad. Thank you for being the family that you are and sharing Lamp and all the families with us. God bless you.
    Linda

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    1. Linda,

      I too agree that no one 'deserves' a life filled of ease and luxury. And while most of us will have some amount of grief and suffering, I think happiness is in our own hands and not just circumstantial (to a point). Yes some people have lives that seem very, very unfair and I certainly don't want to diminish that. I feel bad for those mothers who clearly didn't have the support and help they needed and I don't have an easy answer, but I think there are many, many people in the world who could claim to be in even worse circumstances. Either way, life is difficult. But it's also beautiful and everyone deserves a chance at life.

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