Thursday, January 10, 2013

Lamplight Tea Party



The girls had been playing quietly close to dinner time for much too long.  I went to go inspect and instead of some terrible mess or other wicked behavior, I found them engaged in a lamplight tea party.  Both girls dressed in their finest princess wear (Rapunzel and Snow White) with a little tea party set up at Lamp's bedside table...the perfect height for Lamp's powerchair.  I knew this was all PSP's doing. Be still my heart. 



Pouring water from cup to cup and stirring pretend sugar in with dainty tea spoons.  I almost hate myself for taking pictures--too precious to reduce to a few images, but the desire to capture these moments won out in the end.  I'm not really sold on the idea of foreordained families and heavenly pacts to find each other (a light-hearted cultural Mormon idea stemming from a popular/cheesy production which I have actually never seen), but these two were a package deal, I know it.  Don't get me wrong, they still argue and have regular sisterly squabbles.  They give each other crusties, and sometimes yell.  Lamp is particularly expert at getting under her sisters skin by copying PSP word for word... drives her nuts.  I never want to portray my life and family--even my children--like something they're not, which is perfect.  At least perfect in the sense that they never argue or disagree, because they do.  But even with that in mind, I think these two have something special.  


I get a lot of credit for being Lamp's mom, but I've always known I couldn't have done it without her big sister coming first.  Of course I love both my girls equally and without thought or reason--I love them because I'm their mom.  That's it.  But as an adult I also have the ability to work through and process emotions about being the mother of a daughter with special needs.  What does that mean for us?  How do we feel?  How do we view the world differently?  Yadda, yadda, yadda.  But for PSP, there's no processing or complex emotional thoughts.  This is her sister and she loves her fiercely.  Now lets go draw the curtains, turn on the lamp and have a tea party.  It's that simple... and I love her for it.






As a mom I take a lot of comfort in this relationship.  Whatever ways I may screw up, the times I yell or lack patience and understanding... for all the inevitable mistakes, I can always take comfort in the fact that they had each other.  

And if their mama didn't make enough magic for them, they made it for themselves.  

9 comments:

  1. Those are some sweet pics. What a precious pair.

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  2. How heartwarming!

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  3. Favorite post you have ever written! And that is say a lot!

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  4. Anonymous11:38 AM

    PSP has a heart made of gold and Lamp stirring her tea cup with her mouth....those two just melt my heart and always turn my day into a smile...thank you so much for sharing them with all of us.
    marsha.kern@yahoo.com

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  5. This post totally warmed my heart. I have 2 daughters, too and I love one of your last comments..."Whatever ways I may screw up, the times I yell or lack patience and understanding... for all the inevitable mistakes, I can always take comfort in the fact that they had each other." This is beautiful and could not have been expressed better.

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  6. This is so true and so beautiful!

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  7. these are beautiful pictures. i'm so glad you opted to take them. and i take comfort in exactly the same thing - in all my weaknesses as a mom, at least my kids have each other. XO

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  8. A special connection like this, between siblings, makes me want to overcome my fears of post-partum depression and have another baby. It's wonderful to see scenes like this between sisters. I'm so glad you witnessed it and caught a few photos.

    Liv
    www.livwrites.com

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  9. My goodness, this is so lovely. Thanks---- I so love your "ack, don'tminrude, wait, must share" feelings. Glad you shared.

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