Wednesday, May 23, 2012
Help Me Rhonda
I'm not one to name my cars, but my husband always did, and so it is that we've named a couple cars in the course of our 7 year marriage. Our first family car was Magda, named after the East German woman we bought her from. It fit. So when we bought our Honda Odyssey this past fall, one day PSP just started calling it (her) Rhonda. When I gave her a quizzical look she said, Ronda the Honda! Of course. And it has stuck. We drive a car named Rhonda... who happens to be a Honda. So what?
Anyway, this post isn't really about our car, but that's the necessary backstory.
Here's the second part of the necessary backstory.
I'm not that into kid music. I mean we do have some kid music, and the girls often ask for the Disney station on Pandora quite a bit too. But I tend to think good music is good music and that the right kind of adult music can be just as appealing to kids as well. In general, I see no reason to offer children watered down, stupid songs that make me want to stick knives in my ears. So I try to play them songs I like, that I think they'll like as well. Sometimes this means slow and melodic, other times this means peppy and upbeat with a great hook. Sometimes I know they'll love a certain song, but other times I'm surprised by the songs they end up loving. But there was one song I was 1000% confident they'd love.
Hey, PSP...do you want to hear a song about a girl named Rhonda?
Of course I was speaking of Help Me Rhonda by the Beach Boys. The Beach Boys is great parent/kid music by the way. And I was right, they love it. But here's the thing, Lamp LOVES it. Like LA-HUVS it. She asks for it all the time. I want Hewp Me Rhonda mom, I want Hewp me Rhonda. I am her dealer and Hewp my Rhonda is her drug of choice. After 3 hits I have to cut homegirl off. The most adorable part of it all is her singing along.
Hewp me Rhonda, hewp, hewp me Rhonda. And her favorite part...
Hewp me Rhonda, yeah! Get her out of my heart!
Although that last sentence is just a jumbly mess o' cute Lampy words.
While that song has usually been reserved for car rides I realized just how special that song is to her when it has now become requested at bedtime. I need Help me Rhonda for a minute, she says as I hold her before laying her down in bed. So I sing it for a minute. She likes to ask for a lot of things for a minute.
Kind of a long back story there....but there it is.
Anyway, today ended up being a pretty big day for Lamp. It all happened so fast I still can't believe it. Today she had her g-tube removed. She's been weaned off her night-time feedings for a couple months now and so I knew it was coming. She had a GI check up today and the Doc and I talked it over and decided it was time to come out. (For those of you just joing us Lamp had a g-tube placed at 6 months old to help facilitate feeding a baby with an unusually small stomach. Read posts here and here.)
The other thing to know is just how sensitive her g-tube can be sometimes. Sometimes something catches on it--like her shirt or diaper--and even the slightest tug can send her screaming. So the process of taking it out, while not that complicated--a nurse walked in the room, deflated the inner balloon that holds in in place and pulled the tube out--caused her a significant amount of pain. It's been a long time since that girl has been medically traumatized, but it happened today and it's like all of it just came flooding to the surface.
She has a giant bandage on her tummy with some gauze, to assist in healing while the hole closes up. I know, it's kinda nutty, but that's how g-tube removals go...just wait for the hole in your stomach to close up. After a couple hours of being in bed tonight, she woke up screaming and writhing in discomfort from the tummy fluid collected around the site. They warned me it could really irritate the skin. She was screaming, screaming, screaming as we delicately pulled off the sticky bandages (it still hurt) and cleaned the site, changed the dressings and bandage her back up.
She lay in the crib, still shaken and doing that precious yet heartbreaking semi-hyperventilating breathing. Tired and worn out, she didn't want me to leave just yet. So I cuddled my face next to hers and softly sang the most comforting song she knows. When I got to the chorus she spit her binkie out to sing along with me.
Help me Rhonda, help, help me Rhonda...
Help me Rhonda, help, help me Rhonda...
Help me Rhonda, yeah! Get her out of my heart!
I hate that she's ever had to be in that much pain and I hate the helpless feeling that accompanies it.
But I will treasure that memory, and probably that song, until the day I die.